"Taking care of myself is priceless"

Finding courage to speak out  

Nadia, a sex worker in Honduras, has overcome many challenges in her life from a very young age, including abuse and addiction.  

“I was out of touch with reality, I was in a messy world, and everything was messed up--my whole body, my health,” she says. But there were few available options for help. 

Like many parts of the world, certain taboos in Nadia’s community and larger society act against the positive aspects of sexual health for a woman. Not all people accept a woman’s freedom to choose her own lifestyle.  

“In our society, a woman’s sexual life should only be active within marriage, and sometimes it is not possible”, says Nadia. “Some stigmatise young people and do not allow them to access prevention services. We should be a little more realistic.”

Nadia says the stigma that taboos carry, and the associated fear, can be dangerous. If a woman is afraid to speak up about what she needs in order to make sex safe; if a condom fails and she remains silent, it can prevent her managing any complications that follow. 

“Sometimes we don't have the opportunity to talk about our sexuality or our fears,” she says. “So, people don’t look for help in time, and can even find death.” 

Finding unconditional acceptance  

To support the sex worker and LGBTIQ+ communities of San Pedro Sula, MSF established a dedicated clinic in this northern Honduran city in 2021. 

“In this clinic, I found that you can speak openly. But there are places where there are health staff whose treatment [of you] is not the same. They are giving you medical attention, but they are also giving you their point of view with what you should, or should not do, with your life,” Nadia says. 

“It has been a blessing to find this place, where I can find everything: prevention and control of HIV, syphilis and sexually transmitted diseases, family planning… psychological help and social support.  

“I realised that everything has a price, that taking care of myself was priceless and I began to value that more.” 

Learning to take care of ourselves 

Because of her experiences, Nadia speaks out in support of education for mothers and daughters to break through the barriers to services and information.  

She says, “Sex education should be available for children of a certain age, and for mothers to allow their daughters to take care of themselves.” 

Ruth, another sex worker in San Pedro Sula, also believes in self-care: Controlling one’s health means being up to date with treatment, with medication, and coming to the clinic when you feel bad, she says. 

Ruth highlights the importance of feeling invited into, and accepted in, a healthcare centre. MSF health promoters visited Ruth and other women in her neighbourhood, explaining that the clinic’s doors were open to them, that medicine was free, and tests were available. “They told us how to prevent [illnesses], how to take care of ourselves. I felt good,” she says. 

Mental health is a key part of MSF’s comprehensive care package. “When I came to the clinic in the first few days, I did come in quite depressed. I felt that my life no longer made sense. I saw the psychologist because of everything I went through and it has helped me because… it has not been easy,” says Ruth. 

To other women, “these beautiful girls”, Ruth says, “My message is to take care of themselves, to protect themselves more than anything, and to be up to date with their [medical] tests and to come for a consultation.

“And secondly, to support all the women who need it, who are depressed or similar, that's why the clinic is there, and it helps.” 

Sharing sexual wellbeing across generations 

Ruth and Nadia have both faced and overcome many challenges. “Personally, I suffered too much during the time I didn't take care of myself,” says Nadia. 

“I decided and learned through therapy that this is my life, that it is my responsibility, that it is the legacy that I am going to leave to my daughters. 

“As a mother I would like my daughters to walk down the aisle in white; but actively talking about sexuality with our daughters is healthy and for [my family] we have decided not to fall into the [the trap of] taboo. 

“Sex is beautiful, it is wonderful, it is something that as a fully human being we must enjoy. But to fully enjoy it, you must take care of yourself.” 

Nadia draws on her experience to encourage other women: “Dear, educate yourself, take care of yourself so that later you don't have any trauma, complexes or guilt."